Communication Skills and Styles
The Yard, Season 1, Episode 1 on Netflix is the movie that I have selected to view both nonverbal and verbal communication skills. Watching and recording this episode without sound was very intriguing. It aroused my curiosity, and I just wanted to discover what would happen next based on the nonverbal communication and gestures displayed."Nonverbal communication encompasses various actions, such as gestures, tone of voice, eye behaviour, and all aspects of physical appearance" (O'Hair et al., 2018).
The relationships of characters based on how they are communicating can be classified as one that is tumultuous. For example, a young lady was sitting on a bed, moving back and forth with her hands covering her ears. The assumption is that she cannot take it anymore, and she was not prepared for what will happen. It is just too much to handle. Also, I have detected abuse based on the different actions. The first thing that came to mind was sexual abuse since the young lady was featured first. Then, another lady was seen running away from a very irate man inside the house who grabbed and started beating up on the elder of the two ladies. Then, both ladies started fighting back. In addition, the man pulled a handgun and pointed at the two. One of the females reached for the gun, and a tussle ensued where someone had been injured. Immediately, there was the movement of cars with flashing lights, one from the ambulance and the other from the police car. Someone ended up in the hospital and the other in prison. All the characters were assumed to be living together as a family. But a very dysfunctional one. The assumption is there is a wife/mother, daughter and husband/father.
Feelings and expressions based on the nonverbal behaviour observed were feelings of frustrations, loss of self, resentment, imbalance of power/power struggle, and the blame game. When relationships are emotionally dysfunctional, there is not only detachment from our partners from ourselves as well. Then, there is prolonged resentment that sours our outlook on the relationships. It often ties up with pride, identity or values and can feel impossible to let go of. Resentments need to be understood so that they can be dealt with. Also, when you feel a power hierarchy, where one of the individuals controls most of the decisions, shows very little respect, offers no compromise, or does not dare risk honest self-expression, you likely have an imbalance of power in your relationship, and this spells trouble. In addition, blame games are one of the most common ways to shift responsibility and avoid dealing with our emotions.
Deniz has long been violent by her husband. One night the cries from the house are cut like a knife with the sound of a handgun. Deniz is arrested for allegedly shooting her husband, Hakan, during the fight. Deniz comes to prison as a prisoner. Deniz's only wish is to call her daughter and learn her situation. But in prison, she finds herself among two hostile women who have formed their own rules and sides: Azra and Kudret. Both women attempt to struggle to increase their power within the prison by pull Deniz to her side. The only request for Deniz is to get to her daughter as soon as possible without getting into any trouble and crime.
My Experience
I would not have any assumptions if I had already watched the movie because there would be no surprises. Furthermore, I would have known exactly what to expect before re-watching. However, based on the nonverbal communication in this movie, I have learned that assumptions can often be proven to be true, and actions are sometimes more effective than words. After watching the movie with the sound, I have confirmed all my assumptions except for the sexual abuse mentioned. However, a lack of immediacy behaviour between a couple of the characters who never displayed any feeling of closeness, involvement, and warmth. Immediacy provides that opportunity for bonding among individuals. According to O'Hair et al. (2016), "Gestures are one way to convey emotion, but our faces are another." Yes, our facial expression says a lot about us. Some of these facial expressions are innate emotions, while others are based on our culture. Making eye contact, nodding, and pausing and listening to our students is crucial because it will boost their self-confidence and help them be active participants in their class. Furthermore, our colleagues will realise that we are effective communicators, and they will want to confide in us when the needs arise. Usually, our posture, vocal tone and eye contact can deliver subtle messages that reinforce what's being said to convey consistency and trustworthiness. When colleagues feel they can trust us, we are forging life-long healthy relationships.
Reference
O'Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J. (2018). Real communication: An introduction (4th. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.
Hello Sherida!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing! I haven't seen or heard about The Yard before. While I was watching Trying (the tv series I chose) with the sound turn off, I was also very curious and anxious to view it with the sound turned on. I agree with you that sometimes our assumptions are correct and that actions are sometimes more powerful than words. I also agree that our non-verbal communication skills are essential when communicating with children, parents, or colleagues, and we must be aware of them in order to be effective communicators. I enjoyed reading your post!
Antoinette
Hi Antoinette.
ReplyDeleteThank you for adding value to my post. I agree with you.
Thanks for sharing! The Yard is really good I watch it just last week. It was really different to watch with the sound turn off, I was so anxious to view it with the sound turned on. Your exactly right sometimes our assumptions are correct and that actions are sometimes more powerful than words. I enjoyed reading your post!
ReplyDeleteI agree with your statement that facial expressions says a lot about us. You can often tell how I feel by my face and body language. When I was completing this assignment, the characters facial expressions were a little misleading. Either that or I read them as more extreme than they were based on my schema.
ReplyDeleteI will have to watch The Yard. It sounds interesting. Thank you for sharing!
Hi Sherida,
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing. This series sounds very interesting. So happened in the first episode. Facial expressions, body language, and gestures are major factors in communicating.